Unemployment – Reversing the Emotional Impact

Being unemployed is unpleasant for most people. It is hard in this economy to build a solid savings to keep you afloat if you have the misfortune of losing your job. This can exacerbate the stress of finding another job as quickly as possible. In today’s changing world, people do not seem to be sticking with one job for decades on end as they did a few decades ago. Instead, many seem to “job hop” until they find the right job and company for them. This can be great; it can be a means to learn a great deal in a short time as you experience different situations with different companies and jobs. It can also be bad. A lot of employers may still think negatively when they review a job applicant who has multiple, short term jobs on their resume. This can be another point of stress for the person trying to find a new job. Will the person doing the hiring consider my resume positive for learning and trying new things? Or will they think that I simply cannot hold down a job? In my experience, as much as companies claim it is not so, many companies still rely on intuition and inconsistent hiring methods. In other words, how you come across on your resume is determined by the state of mind of the person viewing it. You could have the perfect job history and still not get hired, because the person just “didn’t feel” you were the right fit. With such an inconsistent hiring practice, it’s a wonder anyone gets hired. However, this can be yet another negative stressor for the person seeking a new job.


Keep your chin up! This is hard to do when bills are mounting, spouses are claiming you’re not trying hard enough to find another job, and your self-esteem is plummeting. Just keep at it. Keep filling out those applications, even the same ones over and over again. Keep pumping out those resumes! Take advantage of free services offered by your local job seeking service. I like to use mine to print free resumes and business cards. A great idea is to take this time and find alternative methods for employment. Are you good at yard work? Can you crochet or knit? Do you love cleaning house or organizing things? All of these things can be turned into an alternative form of employment until you get back on your feet again. It is possible that one of your hobbies or strong points could turn into a full time career, but let’s not get wrapped up in that. It’s great to hope for the stars, but you have bills to pay.

I have had several bouts of unemployment over the past two years. I find it difficult to work in a negatively-oriented setting with other people who have truly bad attitudes. Seeing as how I do not have a degree, I tend to find work in general labor or entry level positions. It seems there is a higher ratio, according to my own personal experiences, of people who have poor attitudes towards others in these positions. I can’t completely blame them – they are doing the hard, dirty work that no one else wants to and are often not getting the credit for it. Still, the best way to work, I’ve always felt, was as an uplifting team. When this type of attitude becomes prevalent in the work force in your area, you may find it more difficult to get the motivation to seek another job. Why spend your time around people who are disrespectful for such low pay?


Start your dream job. I know, I said earlier not to get wrapped up in this, but hear me out. You need to pay your bills, that’s a fact of life. No matter how much we wish money was not the object, it still is. Just find a job that you can stand and get those bills paid. If you are able, try to find a job that does not do a lot of overtime: you’re going to need all the extra time you can get working on your project. Yourself. That’s right, spend your extra time doing what makes you happy and what leads to that dream job. Take night classes one course at a time, refine your skills, practice marketing and sales of your skills by exploring online social media. All of these things will help you take those small steps towards your dream job that lead to larger steps and, ultimately, your goal. This is not something that is going to happen overnight; it will take time, effort, and commitment. Create some basic goals to base your motivation on. This way, when you feel your efforts are lessening, you can remind yourself of your goals and pick up some extra steam. To do this, you need to ask yourself some questions. Why do I want this particular dream job? What am I going to get out of it that will make me happy? How is my time, effort, and money worth this compared to a 9 to 5 job? By answering these questions, you will create a positively-oriented foundation to keep you continually motivated in seeking that dream job!

Remember, keep looking for that 9 to 5 job because better things are on the horizon.